Do all men fall into these groups??
Pushing into my thirties, I feel I have met my share of men- some good, some bad and some plain awful! Expressively I mean. And all through these years, you start realizing there is an echo of men in their emotional ways. You cannot help but notice there is a pattern in how these men were wired! Having read an article on some novel where men are categorized, I decided to make my own list out of my ill-fated dates and those of my friends.
#1.Mr. Flaunt-Alpha
There is a thin line between confidence and cockiness and most certainly, these men tread this path. They are extremely confident; absolutely convinced they are God’s gift to womankind and in the most certain way, arrogant. True, we hate to love men like these but we women are duped into thinking that there could be no wrong with a man like this. Do we really see past his physical inadequacies or his cocky know-it-all attitude to be with someone so pompous? I have most certainly dated a few like this and at the end of the day, I wonder how did I tolerate it all?
#2.Mr. Coy-Beta
Ahh, the men who just do not know how to carry themselves around women! Extremely shy, the gawky geeky kind, these men speak slowly, rarely see us in the eye and yet, somehow catch our attention because we think we can save them. But rarely does that happen, because most certainly they take us down with them! I could never be attracted to a guy like this, so this comes directly from the book/article and not from my experiences, but hey never say never!
#3.Mr. Sensitive-Confident
Our Prince! Our Hero- the kind of guy we would all like to meet, fall in love and spend the rest of our lives with! Extremely brilliant yet never boastful, he makes an impressive conversation when called for and can make you in laugh in the most genuine way. This man makes our heart flutter at the thought of having someone who respects us for being that we are- complicated creatures rather than sexual game. Our first impressions of this guy are not so strong or passionate because he doesn’t give away the protective in charge vibes. But the feeling of wanting to know him or simply be friends with him is undeniable! In my experience, we stop looking around when we find that one guy who can satisfy us intellectually, emotionally and physically- I did, when I found my Mr.Sensitive-confident!
#4.Mr. Playboy
Not much different from Mr.Flaunt, yet with some character of Mr.Senstive, Mr. Playboy makes my list as being the kind of guy I had always fallen for in the past! He is extremely sensitive, a good listener, totally into you until he knows you are dancing to his tune. And ahem, he suddenly becomes this extremely insensitive guy who calls you on his time and doesn’t have the inclination to listen to your cry stories. He plays with your heart, at first delicately, caressing your feelings and then he starts the intense mind game cycle. Finally he knocks on your feelings so hard, you are left heart broken and you do everything in your power to get yourself out of the quagmire you got yourself into. It takes a while to fall in love with this sensitive creature and double the time and effort to fall out of love with this heartless monster he has turned into! Some of my fondest memories and painful heartbreaks have been with men like this- no wonder the many sentences I can pen down!
#5.Mr.Can-I-get-into-your-pants
Seriously, have you never met a guy who just wants to sleep with you and nothing else? I have and it baffles me to think there are men out there who conclude that just because you dress and speak and live differently, you can prostitute yourself to be their mentor in some twisted manner. C’mon, it is 2010 for crying out loud- if not a gentleman, at least try to be civilized! Run lovelies, run from men like these because they are far from a care! Better the mind games than mindless sexual exploits!! I ran and did not disappoint my moral inner being or my creator!
#6.Mr.Abusive
At first they play sweet, and then start the abuse- emotionally, verbally and physically. Accomplished liars and extremely manipulative with their words and ways, you wouldn’t be surprised to find yourself with a man like this but horrified to realize you have no way out. I have never been in a relationship that turned abusive, but I am sure there are men out there who fit this category and women out there who cannot wait to find some love that comes without the abuse.
And now those thought provoking questions- but first let us all remember that men are as complex as we women are and are an essential part of our survival...
So, can we group all men into these categories?
And should we all constantly look out for Mr.Sensitive-confident?
Before you lash out on me, keep in mind my listing is not an expert writing- these are simply my experiences and those of my friends.
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